Why Wait to Have Sex?

Hello everyone, 

This topic is a little more controversial than most I post, but this has been on my heart for a couple days now. 

Here's a question I get asked often: Why wait to have sex until marriage? When people see my purity ring and find out what it is, there's a few reactions that almost always happen. "I can't believe you're waiting, what's the fun in that?" or "That's really respectful, but I could never do that myself." 

There are many reasons I'm waiting until marriage, but here are the main ones. 

1. The Bible tells us that we are to wait until marriage to have sex. 

Now this may not be a good enough reason for many people, but I believe the Bible to be true and for it to guide everything we do and say. 1 Corinthians 6:19 says, "Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own." This shows that we don't have the right to do with our body what we want because we belong to God and we should desire to be obedient to Him in A L L we do. 

2. Our purity is like a bouquet of flowers. 

Once a friend told me that our purity is like a boquet of flowers, each time we give a part of ourselves to someone, we have less flowers to have to give to our future wife or husband. It's not only how much you give away of yourself, but how many people you give parts of yourself away to. The goal is to have as many flowers as possible to give to your future spouse. Would you want to give them a picked over, wilted boquet of flowers or a fully bloomed, large boquet of flowers? I would choose the latter. 

3. A lot of us have double standards for our future spouses and that's wrong. 

I have heard many people say that it's okay if they give themselves away before marriage and that they will just marry someone who can give them everything they kept sacred. Don't get me wrong, I know many people who had sex before marriage when they weren't a believer and now they're waiting, this doesn't mean they can't marry someone who's still a virgin. What I am saying is that you can't except whoever you are going to marry to give you their best, when you're not giving them your best. Your goal should be to have the same standards for yourself that you have for your future spouse. 

4. It's not as special when you don't wait. 

I know so many people that didn't wait to have sex until marriage and they actually feel guilt and shame every time they have sex with their spouse. God told us to wait not because He didn't want us to have fun or enjoy sex, but because he created sex to be more pleasure filled when you do it with the person you marry. God creates commandments and rules because He wants to help you, not harm you or take away your fun. 

5. You create a connection that can't be taken away if you don't wait. 

This is especially important for women, oxytocin is released when you have sex which makes it hard to let go of the intimate connection you have with someone who you used to have sex with. This happens every time you have sex with someone and that means that you are intimately connected to more people than just your spouse, and if you're like me than you only want that intimate connection with the one person you're going to spend the rest of your life with. 

Thanks for reading and I hope you learned something new! 

Blessings, 

Anna